When was the last time you thought “Was life not meant to be easy? Were we not meant to succeed simply by being ourselves? Was not progress and accomplishment supposed to come without a lot of effort or pain?” Somewhere deep in me, I know this to be true! Life is Easy, is it not? – Or is it?
I am the first to admit that I look for the easy way through life. I always have and I always will. I look for the simplest answer and the shortest route. When I drive, I take the fastest roads with the fewest bumps. And when I work on a project I go for the least complicated way to get it accomplished.
I have always turned away from the hard stuff. Why? Because I knew there had to be an easier way.
When I look up “Easy” in the English Thesaurus I find these similar words: simple, trouble-free, straightforward, comfortable, calm, painless, uncomplicated, stress-free, at ease, etc… A life like this I like! Don’t you? So yes, I believe Life is Easy.
Now I bet your thinking “Easy? Who are you kidding? No way! It can’t be possible! There is always going to be pain, let down, frustration, hard decisions, etc.”
I agree – sort of. So, let me clarify something. An Easy Life does not mean to sit around all day eating Bon-Bons and watching TV hoping that the gods will intervene on your behalf and hand you everything you ever wanted and more. If you believe that praying and hoping all day will get you what you want in life, I have got news for you. Yes praying, believing, and meditation are important, but you have to take part in your life. Be involved in the design and creation of it, if you want it to be your own. Otherwise, someone else will live it for you.
And yes, life will include challenges. I will not deny that. It comes with the territory. And it’s part of the beauty and development of the human experience. But that does not mean that life has to be hard. In fact, an Easy Life is about action, focus, determination, courage and results. It requires effort, thought, action, and a willingness to give it your all.
“But how is that easy?” I hear you ask. Here’s the big secret – an Easy Life is about finding the flow. Finding flow through those rough spots, hard decisions, and frustrations, with the right answers, decisions and action, and knowing when to put your skills to work. It’s about knowing when to move forward, when to step back and when to rest. And then trusting that the end result you desire will come, even if you don’t know how yet. Because the end result will come, it will!
What’s difficult is finding the flow. That easy place with peace and space that allows life to move forward while providing you the answers you want and the things you need to find success in what you’re after.
You can find it. That flow you are looking for, that makes life easy and allows you to make the right decisions for yourself and take action when it makes sense. And then only take the action that will give you the best results, propelling you toward what you seek. I am here to tell you – it can be done.
How do I know? Because I have found it! And so have many of my clients. They often say it feels unreal, like they can’t believe that life can be that easy. That answers, decisions and action can be easy to find and do. And that the things they set out to do can be accomplished, EASILY.
It works, whether you are facing adversities like career transitions, romantic break-ups, and divorce OR you are making everyday decisions about the house, family and which guy or gal to date. Life gets to be easy and you get to have so much more of the experience of life than they have ever imagined before.
So here is my thing. Find it for yourself. Find the flow and the way to strong confident answers, decisions and action. Start by just paying attention to what is happening each and every day in your life. Stay present in the moment and watch what happens. The first assignment I give my clients is “Notice”. Notice everything around you and how you feel about it. Set aside your emotional reaction and your need to make anyone wrong. Just notice. It will be your first step to finding the Easy Life.
Here’s to your Easy Life!
Cecilia Deal
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