The Truth Will Set You Free

And who was it that so fantastically said “The Truth will set you free”?

When I was growing up my mother always made us use just one towel for the week. With three kids and only one washer, it would take her hours to finish the laundry on the weekends. So for years I’ve kept that as my own practice, just one towel per week for showers.

Then one day I was thinking to myself “I’d really like another towel today”. Then I heard that voice in me say “But it’s not a new week.” And for some reason, for the first time in years, I questioned that voice “Well why can’t I have another towel this week?”

And then it hit me, like a flash, and I laughed and laughed and laughed. “You can’t have another towel because it will create too much laundry for mom” HA! That’s been running around in my head for years, unchecked, and I didn’t even know it.

You know what? I’M THE ONE WHO DOES LAUNDRY. I CAN HAVE ANOTHER TOWEL IF I WANT!

So, for the first time in years, I grabbed another towel that week. In fact, I used a new towel every day that week, just relishing in the fact that I could – just because I wanted to.

So I wonder…what unchecked thought is running around in your mind keeping you from having all you want in life?

Find the truth, and it will set you free.

~Cecilia Deal @ Finding Wanna – All copyrights reserved 2011.

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Focus in Your Job Search and Business

 

It is a matter of focus!

I can not remember where I heard that phrase, but it seemed brilliant at the time. And it is still completely relevant. Focus is the one of the most important things you can do to get your job search or your business hopping.

I have plenty of clients tell me they are unmotivated and can not seem to get things done. They say they just do not have the will power or tenacity to get things done. Then they complain that nothing they “do” in their job search or in their business is producing results.

Hog Wash! It has nothing to do with “will power” or “tenacity” and nothing to do with your capabilities or ability to take action.

It has everything to do FOCUS.

Look…focus gives you motivation, dedication, will power, tenacity, and guts. It generates ideas and connections. After my clients get focused, they take off like a shot and have more motivation than they know what to do with. What a great problem to have.

Why does focus work? It works because you finally know where you are going, what road to take, how to communicate, and what decision to make. You know when to say YES and when to say NO.

Without focus, I doubt I could write this article or get my point across. If you are a job seeker or an entrepreneur without focus, it is difficult to communicate with potential employers or your customers. You find you can not complete your resume or your web-site material. And forget trying to search for a job or your customers…you get lost in search engine limbo forever, without focus.

I will let you in on a little secret. Your potential employers and your customers KNOW you have no focus when you interview or talk with them. It’s amazing. They pick up on it like a sixth sense, even if they can’t explain why. They walk away dazed, confused, without any sense of why they talked with you in the first place, or they forget you the moment you walk out the door. Not good, if you want them to actually hire you or buy your product or services. As a job seeker or an entrepreneur you want to leave a lasting impression, and not that one!

So sit down and figure out your focus. Ask yourself what you want to do or offer. Take a bit of time to do some research about what potential employers or your customers are looking for. Then find a focus and communicate that to them, in a way that shows them you have exactly what they need.

It will have your potential employers or customers flocking to you. And they will remember you, in a good way. And whether they need you now or weeks down the road, you will be the first person that comes to mind. Because what they need IS YOU, your talents, your services, your skills and your strength.

Now, go get ’em!

Happy Hunting!

Reinventing Yourself

When I was young I use to rearrange my room.  Often!  Every month I would clean out all the cobwebs, dust off the window ledge, and rearrange the furniture.  When I started moving things around I never knew where my furniture would end up.  It was like my own personal adventure.  I loved the fresh clean feeling it left me with and the change in perspective it gave me.

Old habits die hard.  Now, every so many months I re-invent my life.  It seems crazy to some, I know.  Why would I go about constantly shifting my life, my environment, or my role, making changes and doing things my way?  Let me tell you why…reinvention is my look back, like a trip down memory lane.  It is exciting and one of the most rewarding parts of my life.  It is like cleaning out a closet, dusting off the cobwebs, and rearranging the furniture, I get to look through old memories, find treasures, and discover a few lost coins under the cushions.

Reinvention is my look back, but it is also my fresh start.  That new look from a new direction about what I really want! I get to de-clutter, get rid of the things that get in my way, and making it easier to get to the things I want.  Most of all, I get an appreciation of what I have and a clear view of what I really want.

I may be grown-up now (or at least I claim to be), but reinventing myself still makes me happy.  A new place, a new role, and a new adventure!  You might say is it an evolution that gives me a fresh look at life, a new set of goals to reach for, and a sense of excitement about what’s next.  How will you reinvent yourself this year?

Copyright © 2009 Cecilia Deal.  All Rights Reserved.

Directions for Life

A few days ago I bought a new hair serum.  Before I used it, I decided to actually read the directions on the bottle.  Here is how the instructions read…

Directions:  After shampooing and conditioning, apply generously to scalp and rub.  Comb through hair and let set for 5 minutes.  Rinse thoroughly with water.

Many times in my life I have often wished I had such clear directions for life.  After my own life journeys and experiences, I imagine the directions for life would read like this…

DIRECTIONS:  After identifying what you want and need, apply liberal doses of faith.  Combine with plenty of self care and let set.  Rinse thoroughly with forgiveness.  Results visible immediately.”

© Copyright 2008, Finding Wanna and Cecilia Deal.  All rights reserved.

Being In Love

When was the last time you were “in-love” with someone? It could be a pet, a partner, a lover, a parent, a child or anyone else. Do you remember what it felt like? When you felt that warm, tingly tenderness just at the sight of them. Where you knew at that moment it didn’t matter what happened, because you would always love them. Through mistakes, frustrations, miscommunication, illness, and hard times, you could still love them.

You knew somewhere, deep down, you would overcome all the obstacles. You had such confidence in them and your relationship, that no matter what happened, you still kept on believing all would be O.K. in the end. And no matter how angry, frustrated or worried you got, you could still find it in you to look upon them with love.

Do you remember what it was like to receive this type of love? What some call unconditional love? Maybe your puppy greeted you at the door, tail wagging, excited to see you. Or your child ran to the door, calling your name, arms open for embrace. Do you remember how good it felt, how cherished you felt, how loved?

It is such a sweet moment, isn’t it? No matter how brief. I often wish I could hold onto it forever. At those moments my problems seem so insignificant. I feel as though I could take on the world.

So I wonder…when was the last time you felt this way about yourself? A moment when the size of your thighs, the color of your hair, or the price of your clothes did not matter. Where your education, family status, job, or work experience did not define you? When you could honestly say to yourself “you are worth it, you are talented, you are smart, you can do it, and I love you”?

If you have never been “in-love” with yourself, why aren’t you? I am not talking conceit or arrogance, I am talking true love. Because, you can see past your mistakes, faults, and flaws and love yourself anyway. You can recognize your talents and know that you are treasured just as you are. You can have confidence and belief in yourself, no matter what happens. And you can say to yourself “You are worth it, you are talented, you are smart, you can do it, and I love you”.
 
So the next time you feel like the world could take you apart, just look in the mirror, with those loving eyes that see beyond the current circumstances. Know that YOU ARE LOVED, by you!

Copyright © 2008 Cecilia Deal.  All Rights Reserved.

Easy Life?

When was the last time you thought “Was life not meant to be easy?  Were we not meant to succeed simply by being ourselves?  Was not progress and accomplishment supposed to come without a lot of effort or pain?”  Somewhere deep in me, I know this to be true!  Life is Easy, is it not? – Or is it?

 

I am the first to admit that I look for the easy way through life.  I always have and I always will.  I look for the simplest answer and the shortest route.  When I drive, I take the fastest roads with the fewest bumps.  And when I work on a project I go for the least complicated way to get it accomplished.

 

I have always turned away from the hard stuff.  Why?  Because I knew there had to be an easier way.

 

When I look up “Easy” in the English Thesaurus I find these similar words:  simple, trouble-free, straightforward, comfortable, calm, painless, uncomplicated, stress-free, at ease, etc…  A life like this I like!  Don’t you?  So yes, I believe Life is Easy.

 

Now I bet your thinking “Easy?  Who are you kidding?  No way!  It can’t be possible!  There is always going to be pain, let down, frustration, hard decisions, etc.”

 

I agree – sort of.  So, let me clarify something.  An Easy Life does not mean to sit around all day eating Bon-Bons and watching TV hoping that the gods will intervene on your behalf and hand you everything you ever wanted and more.  If you believe that praying and hoping all day will get you what you want in life, I have got news for you.  Yes praying, believing, and meditation are important, but you have to take part in your life.  Be involved in the design and creation of it, if you want it to be your own.  Otherwise, someone else will live it for you.

 

And yes, life will include challenges.  I will not deny that.  It comes with the territory.  And it’s part of the beauty and development of the human experience.  But that does not mean that life has to be hard.  In fact, an Easy Life is about action, focus, determination, courage and results.  It requires effort, thought, action, and a willingness to give it your all.

 

“But how is that easy?” I hear you ask.  Here’s the big secret – an Easy Life is about finding the flow.  Finding flow through those rough spots, hard decisions, and frustrations, with the right answers, decisions and action, and knowing when to put your skills to work.  It’s about knowing when to move forward, when to step back and when to rest. And then trusting that the end result you desire will come, even if you don’t know how yet.  Because the end result will come, it will!

 

What’s difficult is finding the flow.  That easy place with peace and space that allows life to move forward while providing you the answers you want and the things you need to find success in what you’re after.

 

You can find it.  That flow you are looking for, that makes life easy and allows you to make the right decisions for yourself and take action when it makes sense.  And then only take the action that will give you the best results, propelling you toward what you seek.  I am here to tell you – it can be done.

 

How do I know?  Because I have found it!  And so have many of my clients.  They often say it feels unreal, like they can’t believe that life can be that easy.  That answers, decisions and action can be easy to find and do.  And that the things they set out to do can be accomplished, EASILY.

 

It works, whether you are facing adversities like career transitions, romantic break-ups, and divorce OR you are making everyday decisions about the house, family and which guy or gal to date.  Life gets to be easy and you get to have so much more of the experience of life than they have ever imagined before.

 

So here is my thing.  Find it for yourself.  Find the flow and the way to strong confident answers, decisions and action.  Start by just paying attention to what is happening each and every day in your life.  Stay present in the moment and watch what happens.  The first assignment I give my clients is “Notice”.  Notice everything around you and how you feel about it.  Set aside your emotional reaction and your need to make anyone wrong.  Just notice.  It will be your first step to finding the Easy Life.

 

Here’s to your Easy Life!

Cecilia Deal

 

Copyright © 2008 Cecilia Deal.  All Rights Reserved. 

Choice

What I’m passionate about is having choices.  A choice about what you do with your body, your spirit, your mind, your soul and your life.  Choices on how you create your career, direct your business, build relationship, worship (shoes, cars, or religion), communicate, love, create family, and live YOUR life.

What I know about choice is this…you have to be aware to see it.  You have to know that there is a choice to make.  AND you have to know what you want and what you stand for to have the ability to decide which choice is best for you.  You have to know what is important to you, what you hold valuable, the standards you live by, how you operate and what makes you tick.  Otherwise, it’s all up to chance.  I don’t know about you, but I do not want to leave that much of my life up to chance.

How do you get answers about what you want when you can’t even think straight?  When you are bombarded by opinion, advice, and what “others” think is best for you?  When you get advice, take a class, or read a book, but still leave wondering how the recommendations apply to your own life?  How are you suppose to discover what you want and the best decisions for you?

You stop!  You stop and listen.  You take breathing room and then you gently, lovingly embark on the discovery of what you want.  You get connected to your own personal “wanna-meter”(of-course this is a technical term).  That internal meter that tells you how to identify what you want and what is important to you.  This is the work I do with my clients, breathing room, listening, and getting connected to that personal “wanna-meter”.  Because, if you aren’t listening to yourself, then how can you connect to what you want or make choices that are right for you?

What are you choosing today?  Will you live in choice or will you leave your life up to chance?  Will you swim around in advice or start making decisions for yourself?  Are you ready to KNOW what YOU want? Because it is a choice!

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